Much of the talk in the office and via emails the past couple days has been of this beautiful web slideshow that displays an elaborate engagement process. The link has been forwarded around in many of my degrees of separation, slowing down the website’s servers. In an unscientific survey about 100% of the men I talked to thought it was over the top. and about 35% of women I spoke to directly thought so too (percentages in favor based on word of mouth surveys of women were higher and some even cried). The men didn’t care to see the whole thing, and ALL of the women wanted to see the ring. I can’t speak to his situation, everyone has to express themselves individually, but if it were me, I’d be getting married in room #10 after all that glitz and fanfare.
I can’t consign on that display from the aspect of she will probably ALWAYS look at that and be like “now you got me, you don’t send me gold tipped roses anymore”
But kudos on the presentation and photography.
The link in question. good luck with bandwidth.
I had just watched that a few minutes ago. Someone else had it linked to their blog. I seriously thought it was too much and even the bride to be looked very overwhelmed. I feel the only reason a man would feel the need to do that much is if there were some question or doubt about the strength of the bond. A simple will you marry me suffices. I’ve never been married and I can’t imagine how I would feel with all that fanfare. I think it would freak me out. Anyhow, I agree with you that the photographer is totally on point. He captured every essence…every moment…every emotion. Plus if you’ve checked out dude’s blog he seems genuinely passionate about what he does. Kudos to him. I wish the couple the best of luck in their marriage although I’ve seen in the past when all of that is required the marriage doesn’t typically make the first decade. Let’s hope they beat the odds.
I would be running, running, RUNNING in the opposite direction of this guy. That’s WAY over the top.
Imagine what it would be like to live with someone who’s got such a need for perfection and attention.
It smelled of desperation as far as I’m concerned.
Over the top? Possibly – I’m a simple girl, so my initial thought is that if asked, I would say that I wouldn’t want something like that. But, the idea that someone cared enough for someone else to do something this thoughtful, involving those close to her is sweet – we should all hope that we find someone who loves us as deeply, and would want to do something equally as thoughtful for us – maybe not the multiple rooms, but something that would hold some sentimental value to each of us – more than “We ain’t gettin’ no younger, we might as well do this” a la Jagged Edge. While it may not be my preference, I won’t hate, and can’t honestly say I wouldn’t be moved if it was done for me. Since most of us are unable to find sincere and heartfelt emotion from others, and the world has moved far, far away from simply doing very thoughtful things for others, it’s no wonder that when someone does, the rest of us think it’s over the top, and we don’t know how to receive expressions such as this – or even more moderate expressions of love and emotion. Wish them well, and hope that someone cares about you as deeply as this gentleman appears to care about this young woman. Young relationships don’t have role models any more to learn the meaning of relationship and partnership, and we do a great job screwing it up, so it’s true the odds aren’t in their favor – let’s hope the folks involved in the engagement are equally as supportive when they trully need them.
did you disappear from flickr? this is from frances1972.
i did frances but i’ll be back shortly
I have to agree with C… I loved it but I thought he will have a hard time keeping that pace. However, I have a feeling that she probably loves him for the simple things he do as well. I think it’s nice that a man will go over the top now a days. The desperation some women have and the lack of love display they will endure is pretty bad. At least there’s no question that he loves her. And I believe it’s mutual.
Sooooo over the top