j and i yesterday discovered that we both have vastly different ideas on roles in a relationship. or what I’m thinking of is relationship styles.

I have learned that the we handle conflict and build expectations about relationships are based on what we’ve witnessed in our homes while growing up. which seems obvious after the fact but you don’t realize you’re mirroring it.

and there’s the epiphany that comes with learning that I was going into the relationship thinking it was an x-type relationship and j was going into it thinking it was a y-type of relationship, and getting to this point down the road where we realize that y’s expected of me but I’m not trying to do that, and vice versa. and thus the stalemate.