I went over to K’s house on Sunday, stuffed myself. the crab dip was great. thanks for the hospitality. I took my one man show on the road, NotCrazyDumbGhettoFakeorBadLooking, inspired by a previous entry.
It was received well by the fellas. The women thought seeking all of those qualities together was too much to ask for (assuming ages 35+) that brothers would need to let one or two of those conditions slide…i wonder which ones.
Uh….seems as if you forgot the most important factor…that some of those characteristics you want to avoid were likely man-induced some time long ago…..you can’t run from the baggage you may have created!! Take ownership, menfolk! 🙂
And for the record, “crazy” is really relative…you may have to make a whole ‘nutha entry defining that one…the rest of the qualifiers, I’ll give you…b/c dumb will whittle away at any amount of pretty any day…
Amen C !!!!
Damn, theres 3 i dont like in that phrase, fuggit most of it i’m not feeling. Proves how picky i am. Plus men cant take ownership of baggage that was created into a new relationship. Its up to the those with it to let it go and give fresh starts. Ladies dont hear me doe…
“you must be the change you wish to see…”
Ghandhi
Point taken…however, sometimes menfolk forget that the baggage that their new interest has is very similar to the baggage that they likely gave some other poor unsuspecting woman (or, admittedly, in some cases, unfortunately, some clearly knowledgable woman). Not that the menfolk can take ownership of the baggage created by another man, BUT they can be much more sensitive to the impact that some of that baggage may have on a new relationship (recognizing the signs, since they probably dabbled in it at some other point in their lives)- an understanding man makes it much easier for a woman to shed that “excess baggage” she may carry with her as a shield, or for protection…a man who refuses to acknowledge it, or who seems to think it’s all “her issue” is setting the relationship up for disaster…and prob. isn’t the right one in the long run.
(Mind you – this is NOT meant to be free license for the women of the world to act plum crazy…you can’t expect the new man to have to live with your baggage and his baggage on his shoulders…you need to recognize it’s not his fault…and don’t blame him for the things he’s not responsible for…and understand when he has to bail b/c you’re not working to resolve issues on your end.)The long and short if it is that we don’t always do a good job of acknowledging and working through “relationship baggage” and as a result, it all comes tumbling down around us.
maybe we can borrow some screeners from the dept of homeland security